He was gloomy and gruff, but no one ever told him to “cheer up.” He was pessimistic about everything and had a negative outlook on life, but no one ever told him to change his way of thinking. He spent his days in an emotional cloud of depression and despair, but his friends were kind and supportive, never treating him as a toxic person, never complaining that he drained all the life out of their party.
His name was Eeyore. He lived in the Hundred Acre Wood, a neighbor to Winnie the Pooh and Piglet, Owl, Tigger, Kanga and Roo, and—of course—Christopher Robin. Each of them had his or her own quirks, a unique personality that had failings as well as higher qualities. In fact, you can search the Internet and find pages that diagnose each character in the stories with a different psychological disorder. A. A. Milne was not writing a textbook about disorders, though; Milne was experimenting with various personality types to show how they function within a caring and compassionate community.
In a society that preaches tolerance for a number of aberrations, it seems that some personality types are still less acceptable than others. Introverts are expected to act like extraverts. People battling anxiety and depression are told that “its all in your head,” and they are expected to act as if everything is fine. They are told to have more faith in God, as if faithful believers (including Job and Elijah) were never depressed. They are told that God’s blessings bring joy and peace, that if they are lacking the feelings of joy and peace there is something wrong in their relationship with God. (That’s exactly what Job’s friends said to him, but God said they were wrong.) They are told to take it to the Lord in prayer, with the suggestion that if that does not lift their gloomy cloud, there must be something wrong with their prayers.
This month I re-read the books Milne wrote about the residents of the Hundred Acre Wood. I found it interesting to observe how his friends treated Eeyore. When he was moping because his tail was missing, Winnie the Pooh took it upon himself to hunt until he found Eeyore’s tail. When Eeyore was grumpy because it was his birthday and no one had noticed, Pooh and Piglet found gifts to celebrate the occasion. Even though the gifts fell short of their intentions—Pooh emptied the honey pot on his way to Eeyore’s house, and Piglet popped the balloon—still, the gifts meant a great deal to Eeyore.
The closest anyone approached trying to correct Eeyore’s attitude was the time that Eeyore complained that he had few visitors, and Owl pointed out that Eeyore could be a visitor in other people’s houses rather than waiting at home for a visitor to arrive. That’s helpful advice and rather mild criticism for a character that would be described in many families, workplaces, and gatherings as a toxic personality, always complaining, never happy, and taxing the happiness of others.
Pooh may have been a Bear of Very Little Brain, but the size of his heart more than compensated for his lack of a brain. Somehow he knew how to treat Eeyore and the rest of his neighbors—never with complaining or criticism, but always with acceptance, helpfulness, and good cheer. Good friends are a blessing from the Lord. Pooh sensed without thinking it through that the best way to have friends was to be a friend, even to negative and gloomy neighbors. J.
Insightful from Pooh of all places, an unexpected source for me
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It’s amazing how often apt spiritual lessons can be drawn from unlikely sources. I’ve quoted Woody Allen, Douglas Adams, and other atheists to back up a Christian message. J.
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Thanks for this post by the way
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What a great lesson, thanks J. I try to remember like what Madblog said….I ought to remember all the patience that has been extended to me.
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Thanks, Wally. I think that reminder pertains to me too. J.
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love it—I love Pooh so.
Eeyore was the name we gave to my dad…the “oh no we’ll never make it” sort of man.
A wonderful tale and analogy my friend—thank you for the warm feelings 🙂
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My pleasure, Julie. J.
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🙂
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I’m ready to experiment with your advice – it sounds wise, and hard. But certainly the kind of advice that if followed would please Jesus.
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I think you are correct, Oneta. J.
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Our house might be the Hundred Acre Wood on steroids for all the extreme personality quirks and it does spend one’s (my) reserves to keep patience and peace in place. I often fail, I’m often at a loss. But I do sometimes remember the patience spent on me, and I have learned to be quiet about other people’s trying of me, most of the time.
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“most of the time” is pretty good. J.
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I love the Winnie the Pooh books. So many good life lessons 🌷
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Indeed. J.
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Good advice, Ty:)
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Mp! J.
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